When you think others might need support, it can be difficult to find a way to talk to them about your concerns. Here are some tips on how to talk to someone you’re worried about:
- Tell them what you’ve observed
- ”You seem really stressed/upset lately”
- ”You seem off lately and your partying is out of control. I’m worried about you”
- Provide resources and help (see the resource board for more details)
- Convey care & support
- ”I’m here for you”
- ”I’m on your team and here to help”
- Follow up with a visit, phone call, text, or note
If OTHERS have Thoughts of Suicide
Sometimes when people are struggling, they have thoughts of ending their life. It’s important to ask directly about their thoughts and Intentions in a caring and helpful way.
- Ask about suicidal thoughts directly
- “Are you thinking about killing yourself?”
- “How much have you thought about suicide/ending your life?”
- Get them connected to resources. The best referrals involve connecting the person directly to someone who can help.
- Offer to help make the call for an appointment or walk them directly to CAPS
- Call the National Lifeline with them (1-800-273-TALK)
Remember: showing support for another person may save their life. It is better to #SaySomething than to not say anything.
- UCSB CAPS 24/7 - 805-893-4411
- UCSB Student Mental Health Coordination Services - 805-893-3030
- UCSB Student Services - 805-893-5361
- National Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK
- Crisis Text Line– text CONNECT to 741741
- Emergency/Police/Paramedic - 911
If the person you are concerned about has plans to act on suicidal thoughts, please call 911 or take them to the nearest emergency room.