Healing from tragedy is a uniquely individual experience. Because traumatic events impact each of us in vastly different ways, the healing process is different for everyone. We each have our own personal pathway to healing.
Although it may not be true for everyone, anniversary dates of traumatic events can evoke memories and emotions in some individuals. Clear memories of the tragedy may surface and cause strong emotional reactions. It is not uncommon for people to re-experience responses to trauma or for normal emotions to intensify. Some may cycle back through stages of the grieving process. Reliving the grief and emotions brought on by the traumatic event is a natural part of healing.
Fortunately, there are many helpful strategies for managing grief and trauma, the most important of which is self-care. Part of self-care is taking the time to talk to someone who understands and will listen without judgment. Consider taking advantage of the many resources on campus that can support your healing process. Counseling & Psychological Services (CAPS) offers grief support groups and workshops in addition to providing individual counseling for students. To make an appointment, call 805-893-4411.
There is always someone available to talk—
805-893-4411 is a 24/7 phone counseling line.
You may not continue to be affected by the tragic events, but you may know someone who is. It's important that we all look out for each other. If you notice that someone is struggling with grief or symptoms of trauma, please talk to them or tell someone who can help. Learn more about how to help someone who is grieving.
Remember that each individual’s healing process is different. Some may not be affected during this time and that’s normal too. The healing process looks different for everyone and there is no one right way to grieve or to heal.
If you feel that person would benefit from talking to a counselor, consider walking them to CAPS (Building 599) or helping them make the phone call for an appointment (805-893-4411). If you are concerned that someone is in distress and is unwilling to seek help, please call Student Mental Health Coordination Services to discuss your concerns. They are available during office hours at 805-893-3030. For after-hours consultation, call 805-893-4411.
If you believe someone is in imminent danger or urgently needs attention,
call 911. Police and medical responders can provide immediate services.